Do people really see you? Do they often look past you? If so, why? I have this issue all the time! I am looking for answers as to why others’ ignore me! It is frustrating!
It feels like trying to solve a “Rubics Cube” because men say what they think. Women never do, they expect you to figure it out.
How many positive comments does it take to “erase a negative comment?”
Dr. Phil said:
“Dr. Phil explains that it takes a lot of positive reinforcement to erase one comment like, “You’re stupid.” When Tiffiny asks if it’s too late to fix the damage she’s caused, Dr. Phil says no, but stresses that the parents’ motives must be pure. He explains that it’s their job to advance their children’s place in life.” Read story at: http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/1284/
How many people have been so damaged by negative comments, they cannot even face themselves in the mirror?
It is amazing how much a single negative comment can affect a person!
Are you ignored as I am? Is it just me? Lately, it feels as if everyone ignores my words! Like I am invisible! For example, I asked the softball coach a question today, and she just walked away! It were as if I was invisible!
Frustrating!
TearLily
/ April 16, 2012Sometimes I feel completely ignored by people I considered friends. It’s like people get so wrapped up in themselves and other people and forget you completely. It makes me feel like I’m plan D or someone they talk to if no one else is there. Don’t feel too bad. Last night somebody was waving and I was childhood friends with his sister and I waved back and it turned out to be for somebody else. Wowzers
lizfruitberry
/ April 16, 2012Yes, others only see themselves sometimes! People can be rude and selfish.
lizfruitberry
/ April 16, 2012Sometimes I think, why don’t women like my personality? What do I do wrong? Someone please tell me, so u can change it! An adult needs friends too. Maybe it’s my tone? Perhaps I am over aggressive? Just wish for once another women would tell me what I do wrong on the friendship side? I suck at friendship!
lizfruitberry
/ April 16, 2012I should google “how to keep friends.”. because apparently my personality is so sucky, I need a “friends for dummies” manual, for real! ha ha😄
TearLily
/ April 16, 2012awww! I’m sorry! I find myself saying or doing things that I don’t consider “me” at times. It just comes out. It’s hard to change myself when I see things in me that I dont like. Perhaps language or phrase or responses that come flying out of my mouth. The best thing to do is to slowly change it. Say to yourself I don’t want to say that anymore and slowly stop. Another thing I try to do is to try to become more friendly around people by saying hi to random people. It’s best to say good morning or something really pleasant with a big smile to a stranger. it makes me feel more social and kind. Boosts my self-esteem up big time!
lizfruitberry
/ April 16, 2012Really? Have to try that! Great tip!
TearLily
/ April 16, 2012I hope it helps you! It really makes my day especially when the person looks lonely because its like hey you yeah I noticed you and hope you have a great day. It makes their day too
iptw283
/ April 16, 2012You and me both. I’m frequently ignored. I think it’s because I have a confidence issue. I don’t think I ever have anything interesting to say, so I don’t say it. I think people will think what I have to talk about is dumb or whatever. So to avoid any embarrassment, I just hide it inside and wait for the perfect place to inject something. I just don’t have a lot to offer people. I’m working on it. I’ve been paying attention to other people who seem to not have this problem! They show a more vested interest in the other person then I do I think. I’m usually too busy trying to figure out how to get this person to like me, I don’t pay attention to what they are saying. So I’ve been actively listening to people now and asking them questions to try to engage in a conversation. it’s working I think. I don’t know. I suck at being friends too. I have a lot of “friends” just not one real good friend you know. I have a blog. It’s my friend!!
lizfruitberry
/ April 16, 2012Exactly! Is this a confidence issue? Is it I look horrible? Does my breath stink? How come I hear of activities but am never invited? My husband says I am a good person. You and I have much in common impossibletopredict! You know what? Even in high school was the odd man out. My sister states I “intimidate” people. She says I have no “filter” when speaking. It’s mind boggling! Guess, some of us weren’t meant to fit in? wish I could watch a video of how I interact with other women to see what I am doing wrong! 😪
lizfruitberry
/ April 16, 2012You are right! My listening skills suck! I hear blah, blah, blah. I can NEVER remember names. Maybe we women are just so stressed, we ignore people. Now, I wonder if I ignore people too! Mind-boggling.
lizfruitberry
/ April 16, 2012Congrats! You received the blog of the day award! Would you mind answering the questions on the post? Great writing! Very interesting posts.
iptw283
/ April 16, 2012Reblogged this on impossibletopredict and commented:
This really struck me on how I feel sometimes. Well, a lot of the times.