Is Your Marriage Healthy?

Sadness (video game)

Are you wondering if your boyfriend or your husband loves you? If you are, ask yourself if he exhibits any of the following characteristics:

  • Withholds love as a form of bullying
  • Controls finances
  • You pay for everything
  • separates you from family or friends
  • Fights with you so he can leave (probably to see another women)
  • NEVER hugs or kisses you
  • Jealous – to the extreme
  • Gossips behind your back
  • Discusses private matters to others
  • Refuses to attend your family functions
  • No interest in your hobbies
  • Does not tell you where he is
  • Does not call you regularly
  • Twists arguments – makes you beleive your fault
  • Brings out the WORST in you (causes low-self-esteem)
  • Decides what you wear
  • Tells you where you CAN and CANNOT go
  • Money – does not give you any (if you do not work)
  • Hides financial information
  • Monitors you electronically
  • Bullying
  • Bar hopping
  • Vacations without you
  • Tells you, you are “crazy” (makes you believe you are crazy)
  • You are “lucky” with him because he is just the best thing ever!
  • Expectations that are unobtainable: For Example: he expects you to be the perfect housekeeper, mother, have a job, and do everything including mow the lawn. No one is perfect. These expectations are not doable.
  • NEVER SHOWS UP ON TIME
  • Never does what he says he will
  • Does not provide for the family or household
  • Publicly humiliates you
  • Makes promises but never keeps them
  • Discussing or looking at other women in front of you
  • You cry almost everyday
  • Verbal Abuse
  • Physical Abuse
  • Hurts animals
Emotions associated with sadness

Emotions associated with sadness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If your spouse/boyfriend exhibits any of the above behaviors, please get out of the relationship Controlling someone is not love. Love is kind, respectful, honest and true. If he is verbally/physically abusing you, get out ASAP. Go to welfare or get help from a shelter.

Do not let your emotions run your life. Sometimes, we have to think about things logically with our minds when our emotions are shielding the truth.

You are beautiful and will find someone who will love and respect you! Get out, you can and you will find the strength!

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10 Comments

  1. I really enjoyed reading this and it has really got me thinking about a lot of things. I am looking forward to reading more of your blogs. Feel free to check out my blogs and follow if you would like.

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  2. Wow you just described my dad.

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  3. Great information. I know so many people who live with this. Makes me sad. You just want them to see it…. see that there is a problem. Yet they are too sad to believe the truth :(
    ps – love your writing style!

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  4. Brad

     /  April 9, 2012

    True

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  5. Thank you for the award! and pingback bossymoksie!

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  1. BIG PIMPIN « bossymoksie

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