Are you consistently angry?
Do people often fail to rise to your expectations? Does this make you angry?
The reason others are failing is because you have set expectations that are unrealistic. The expectations are too high for that person. Try setting expectations for others that are more realistic.
We cannot control what any other person does or says, we are only human.
Appropriate expectations of others = less anger.
It is possible that person is not capable of rising to your expectations for a variety of reasons?
How do I know this?
I read the information in a self-improvement book.
To view all of Liz’s useless facts:
mystudentstruggles
/ July 24, 2012It’s a very pessimistic view on things. I can’t decide whether the ‘have a wonderful day!’ was sarcastic or not.
LizEccentric7
/ July 24, 2012I guess it is negative thinking. Never thought of it that way. You make a valid point.
Maybe we should expect the best from others, and they may rise to our expectations? I read that in a book once too.
I think you have a valid point. Perhaps my thinking is too negative (honest – no sarcasm).
Disaffected Youth
/ July 24, 2012I couldn’t agree more! I am a very realistic person (I call it realism, others claim it’s cynicism) and have realized one important fact: People Suck.
But you’re only disappointed if you assume people DON’T suck and they prove you wrong.
Assume that everybody is self-interested, ignorant, and sucks, and when you find the few people that son’t meet these criteria, you can be pleasantly surprised
LizEccentric7
/ July 25, 2012@Disaffected Youth – Perhaps the people who try to meet the expectations that are set before them do not even have the abiities to be able to meet the expectations.
Maybe the person has no idea where to start, and then I think that is how most arguments begin. One person gets angry due to the expectation not being met. The person trying to meet the obligation gets angry because they do not have the ability or do not want to meet the expectation set before them. I think this is why so many married couples argue.
jfox1221
/ July 25, 2012I think everything has its place. I know for myself…blogging was a way of expressing my anger in a much more healthy way. I’ve watched myself and others around me try to push anger down or refuse to acknowledge its existence. It’s normal. Some may even call it a “human” emotion. I know I’ve had some people tell me “you’re angry”, and to that I say, okay. Would you like a cookie?
I don’t so much worry about getting angry. But I try to determine its source and healthy ways to expend such energies…(i.e. working out, painting, talking it out, deep breathing)
In this day and age, I can hardly imagine a life without a little anger…I mean, thats like saying “do not feel”. I’m secure in the fact that not everyday is going to be the prom and eventually someone is gonna tread on me. Will I punch said someone? Or will I wear my big girl pants and do something constructive with my God given emotion? Hmmmm. I guess we will see.
Really glad to have you back, Liz.
LizEccentric7
/ July 25, 2012@JFox1221- If you decide to punch someone, please blog about it. I agree, blogging and all of the things in your comment do help a lot. Like you stated, there will be times that people will get boiling mad. We are human and not robots. I agree with you completely!
Liz
jfox1221
/ July 25, 2012God Bless America and God Bless Bloggin. Otherwise I would have been nibblin’ on faces just like that guy in Miami. (jus’ kidding…you know what I mean)
LizEccentric7
/ July 25, 2012I “get” your humor and writing style now.
holden2012
/ July 25, 2012So true…have you read “The ultimate spiritual way” by John Parkin? He makes that point loudly and often…we learn to let go….and all that stuff that muddies the water just fades away and allows for a natural flow of being….wow…that is something to think about
LizEccentric7
/ July 25, 2012@Holden 2012 – Great point. Can’t sweat the small stuff.