July 24, 2012
Philosophical question – this is not sarcastic. I truly would love to know your theory.
Does talking really solve problems? I hear people say, “let’s talk it out.” Every single time I hear those words, I wonder, “do spoken words solve problems?”
I ask/think the following:
- Does talking feed the poor?
- Does talking clean my house?
- Has talking truly ever solved any of my problems?
- My dog doesn’t get fed by talking.
I thought action only solved a problem.
My dog, Bella Jayne, is the only one who gets me.
How does talking solve any problem? (no sarcasm)
I truly want to know if anyone has a theory.
Do you know of any problem that has been solved by talking?
Am I thinking about this the wrong way?
Do they appear to be solving a problem by talking? I would love to know your theory on this philosophical question!
kizzylee
/ July 26, 2012LizEccentric7
/ July 26, 2012Feel the same way Kizzy. Talking may solve relationship problems – or does it? Well, never has any of mine. I guess to me, actions speak louder than words. I know other people do get agitated with me all the time because I do not like to “talk things out.”
I do not really understand their frustration – so I decided to write this post to get feedback on the subject.
Am I wrong or are they? That is truly the point of this post.
kizzylee
/ July 26, 2012hmm i have to apologise i cant find the post that puzzled me so now i am thinking it was maybe on another blog so no wonder i thought it didnt sound like you
forgive me the ms does daft things to my mind a certain amount of patience is always required when hanging around with me 
have a super evening 
xx
LizEccentric7
/ July 26, 2012Had to delete the post. That was a huge American faux pas on my part. Plus, posts and books have been written on the subject over and over. I thought ugh, this has been done already, and scrapped it.
kizzylee
/ July 26, 2012aahh i do that i think so far i have scrapped five posts no six some times i think no i should just stand by what i have written then i just cant relax until i come and remove it
i am off on my usual ghosty hunting at the moment 
have a super eveing 
xx
LizEccentric7
/ July 26, 2012I think I am going to do what an expert blogger told me. He said he types his post on his computer, in Microsoft word and them transfers them to WordPress.com.
I am constantly editing posts. Think I will take his advice. My college professor once said, “every piece of writing can always be better.” The professor was right!
kizzylee
/ July 26, 2012brilliant idea , except i cant afford microsoft word have you seen how much it costs? oh crikey its enough to make little old me faint so i will just have to keep on mkaing mistakes and hope people dont mind
xx
LizEccentric7
/ July 26, 2012I have a super old version from years ago, but it still works. Word is outrageously expensive. I do not mind mistakes at all Kizzy. I feel it shows your character in your writing. It makes your writing look cool, to be honest. That is why everyone loves your posts.
kizzylee
/ July 26, 2012*slaps ma forehead* i dont believe i typed the word making wrong in that last comment!
LizEccentric7
/ July 26, 2012Ha ha I wouldn’t worry about the spelling errors. People most likely will never notice.
mystudentstruggles
/ July 26, 2012Maybe talking does help some problems, or at least helps you organise your brain so you can take positive action towards solving a problem, if you don’t talk about a problem you may act rashly and regret it. Then again, if you talk and talk and talk you won’t ever get round to acting.
Talking must help, otherwise therapists would be out of a job, but maybe it only helps with personal issues. As you rightly point out, talking doesn’t feed the poor or tackle many other worldly problems.
Blogging can kinda be like talking, you’re just doing it virtually. Some people blog to hash out their problems and gain advice from strangers, others discuss issues (personal or otherwise) which may lead to action and solving problems and may not.
Thought provoking post – it made me have a conversation with myself as you can see above
LizEccentric7
/ July 26, 2012Well, I thought, doesn’t organizing thoughts on paper help more than talking? Writing seems better than talking, because at least there is a record. It is actually a rather complicated, philosophical question. A conundrum of sorts, I suppose.
mystudentstruggles
/ July 27, 2012Good point but talking means you get new ideas of someone else who sees it from a different perspective.
Definitley a conundrum
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@mystudentstruggles – I am getting all kinds of new ideas from this blog post, that are typed and not spoken. Conundrum indeed.
Written words do have a powerful impact, I believe.
For example: The Constitution
mystudentstruggles
/ July 27, 2012For a America, yes that makes sense the constitution is a powerful written document.
In England however, our constitution isn’t really written down as such. At least not in the same way the American one is, it’s all in bits and pieces and made up of conventions and things.
Good point though. But laws have to be talked about. It’s a never ending argument
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@mystudentstruggles – world peace talks are talking. However, the peace talks are transcribed by a secretary and recorded via video and audio and on paper. In America, most meetings by lawmakers, judges, congressman, the President, statesman, and governors are all transcribed by a secretary. Each meeting is typed and recorded on paper. Most meetings are available to the public – unless deemed private or a matter of national security by the U.S. Government.
Still – unending debate.
Fun, I love debate!
mystudentstruggles
/ July 27, 2012I suppose for it be written it has to be talked about. You know the more we discuss this, the easier it is to forget what the original post was arguing or what side I’m on
Love debates too!
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@mystudentstruggles: Let’s make the discussion topic for this post:
Spoken words vs. Written Words
Which one solves problems?
Which has an actual affect?
Have spoken words solved any problem in the world – ever?
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@mystudentstruggles – just thought of a problem that talking does actually solve.
Example: A salesman or a public speaker solves their financial problems by talking.
Some people make a living by spoken words and it solves their financial problems. For example:
Newscasters
Public Speakers
Political Speakers
mystudentstruggles
/ July 27, 2012Also, lecturers/teachers use talking (at least they do if they’re any good).
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@mystudentstruggles – Finally, we found a few answers. I would have thought I would have been able to answer the post question easily, but it was complicated to think of any answers. My brain actually worked today, and learned something new. That does not happen often.
John
/ July 27, 2012Talking certainly works toward solving issues, but when it becomes the idol BS that is so many gossip websites and TV programs, talk becomes rather pointless as this doesn’t work toward solving the myriad of problems facing us all and this nation. United we stand, divided we fall. The old cliche’ is still true!
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@John – I agree. It just seems as though people often forget the conversation and that leaves them or myself back at square 1, still facing a problem, that could not be solved by talking in the first place.
roughseasinthemed
/ July 27, 2012Facta non verba?
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@roughseasinthemed – Good Morning, is your comment in a different language? I will have to look up what facta non verba means.
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@roughseasinthemed – Facta non Verba means “deeds not words” in Latin. Lovely phrase.
I learn so much from your blog and comments.
roughseasinthemed
/ July 27, 2012Hi, I’m sorry, I went out so missed your question. But you answered your own question
Sometimes I think quotes are better in the original which is why I used the Latin. It’s always been one of my favourite quotations. I’ll be doing a link back to your post later as I’m writing on a similar theme.
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@roughseasinthemed – I will stop by as soon as your latest masterpiece is published.
roughseasinthemed
/ July 27, 2012LOL!! Bit busy although latest work is in draft format
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@roughseasinthemed – Well feel free to use any ideas or info from this post and comments.
Invisible Mikey
/ July 29, 2012You’re right, this is an engaging question, and I see you got thoughtful responses about it. I couldn’t answer myself except to say “sometimes”, which sounds as if I can’t take a position. As some of the others have pointed out, much depends on the quality of the talk. I have been given wonderful advice that helped me figure out ways to deal with frustrating problems, so that I was able to take actions to solve them. I have also been quacked at by dim-witted ducks, and all they did was waste my time and attention. I guess my follow-up question would be “Who’s doing the talking?”
LizEccentric7
/ July 29, 2012@Mikey – most people I know always say “let’s talk this out.”
T.S. Wilkins
/ July 29, 2012Well, talking is a piece of the puzzle. By itself, no, oftentimes it does not solve a problem. There is usually a process involved that requires action afterwards. When I sit down with my team of people to solve a problem or to complete a task, it is extremely important that we communicate well with each other because it only takes one person have a slight misunderstanding that will cause everything to go off course. This involves talking. If we all walked around silent, no one would really know what to do. Now, yes, there are some situations in life (a lot in fact) that solve themselves without having to go through conversations. Sometimes we can talk too much and ruin a situation. It just depends on what the situation is. Great question!
LizEccentric7
/ July 29, 2012@ T.S. Wilkins – Great Point. I agree, communication is important in the work place. However, as you stated, talking does cause multiple issues in the workplace with gossip etc.
SprinklinThoughts
/ August 17, 2012I think that talking can work in two ways –
1) to work things out (internal)
2) to become aware (external)
In each case, the talking may be useful because we get feedback from someone else (avoid getting lost in our own minds) and/or we may help another to see something from another point of view (opening our minds).
If the talking is just to figure something out – like, for example, your question in this post – then that’s all; done.
But if the talking is to become awarer of issues – the need to act – then without the action, the talking is esentially useless & a waste of time.
Just sayin’…
M
LizEccentric7
/ August 17, 2012@Sprinklin Thoughts – presto! Talking with zero action does what? Nothing..People forget the discussion…problem goes on..then what? Shall we take minutes on each discussion? Perhaps I should record every discussion on my iPhone and remind people of their prior decisions.
My peers make decisions, I then act. Then my peers forget their decision and get angry with me.
Thus, my reason for this entire post and discussion.
Decisions of significant life impacting importance should be recorded for later reminding, and review for changes of the decision if needed (my opinion).
SprinklinThoughts
/ August 17, 2012“My peers make decisions, I then act. Then my peers forget their decision and get angry with me.” Happens to me al lthe time. Irritating.
I’m not so much for recording though – shouldn’t be necessary if people are true to their word (and decisions).
lizeccentric7
/ September 15, 2012I know how you feel on this one, same thing happens to me all the tiime, it is sooo frustrating!
Sometimes I feel like need a personal assistant to type when having an important conversation with a person. They often forget the plan by the following week. Then I think, “where have all the smart people gone?”
as Pink (singer/songwriter) states in one of her songs “Stupid Girls.”
LizEccentric7
/ July 27, 2012@roughseasinthemed – Wow! You just drove a ton of traffic my way. Thank you. I am honored.
Thanks again!