Quote Author: Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Sab·o·teur aka Manipulator
“Jealousy is bred in doubts. When those doubts change into certainties, then the passion either ceases or turns absolute madness.”
Absolute madness are the only words to explain the events that occurred in the following story (as true as I can recall). I had been working at this particular facility for some time. I loved my job and became almost like family with the people I worked with and the residents at the facility.
One day along came a woman. Let’s call her Kelly. Kelly was a very young woman. She did not have hardly any working experience. I felt sorry for Kelly because she was struggling at completing assignments. My supervisor asked me to retrain Kelly. So, I started the long process of completely retraining Kelly. I showed her tips and how to do things with precision. The job required complete preciseness, as people’s lives could be lost without every detail being exact. The training was about 2 months long – and then some. I was to report back to my supervisor of Kelly’s progress at the end of the training.
Kelly was not a detail-oriented person. I tried to train her in every way possible, she had chosen the wrong occupation. I explained this to my supervisor. My supervisor asked me to keep training Kelly. I thought this was very odd, as my boss had never put so much time into training people – ever. In this particular occupation, you either have the precision or you do not, there is zero room for errors. People can die if you make a slight error of judgement – or cannot react in a stressful situation.
The training of Kelly continued for several weeks. Kelly never improved. There was a day I went into work and I could feel stress in the air. Have you ever had the feeling you could cut the tension like a knife? That was the feeling at work. I had no idea why, so I ignored it. Chalked it up to everyone having a bad day. Went into the work the entire week, the same feelings were in the air.
Kelly and I were working together the following week. Kelly says to me, “I want your position and I will do whatever it takes to get it.” Shock filled my body from head to toe. She had never spoke to me in such a manner. I pressed the ignore button. The next day Kelly says, “It is not fair that I am so young, and you are fifteen years older than me, but you look better.” I said, “Kelly, I wear a ton of makeup and take a lot of vitamins.” Please note – I did not look better than her at all. Kelly’s perception was way off. Her perception had went into a ditch somewhere on the highway. Kelly continues to say odd things. She says, “Liz, you are lame.” “Liz, I am going to get the hours you have no matter what.” Dare I say mortified?
The feelings of tension in the air never faded. I am older, so I tend to ignore a persons words and assume they are having a bad day. The problem was that I had no clue Kelly was completely manipulating me and my supervisor. Kelly had made many huge errors – some could have been fatal. I knew to go behind Kelly and check her work. I did so every day, all day long. This required much patience.
My supervisor calls me to the office. She tells me that she had heard about all the mistakes I had made. My body and brain was in shock. Kelly had went to my supervisor and told her that all of her errors were my errors. The entire time I was training and working with Kelly, she was telling my supervisor all kinds of made up stories.
The realization at the moment was that Kelly had manipulated me in an awful way. Kelly wanted my position so badly, that she had lied to my supervisor. Wait…here is the kicker. I found out later that evening on Facebook that Kelly’s uncle owned the facility. Dare I say nepotism? The pieces finally came together.
My supervisor spent so much time and resources training Kelly because her uncle owned the facility. Kelly manipulated me into training her, meanwhile bad-mouthing me to my boss.
Who do you think my boss believed? Kelly, whose uncle owned the facility or little old me? I had worked long hours to get the position.
So, just like that…my supervisor handed me my walking papers. Keep in mind my attendance was great. My reviews had the highest score. I was never written up a single time. Kelly had obviously told her uncle multiple lies. Her uncle most likely sent the word down to let me go.
Jealousy is an awful thing. Now I avoid jealousy like the plague by trying to go unnoticed.
Yet again, this makes the point that a lie can be a fact and a fact can be a lie. A person’s perception of events may be biased. The above story is the reason I am so passionate about my earlier post:
Kelly succeeded in taking over my position at the facility. I lost a job that I loved due to jealousy, manipulation and lies. I had no evidence to support the fact that Kelly was lying.
This taught me a great lesson in life – always have evidence. It takes only (1) single false witness against a person to ruin something valuable.
Have you ever had issues with jealousy in the workplace or at school? I would love to read your experiences or thoughts.
Have you ever dealt with a ”Kelly?”
Posted by lizeccentric7 on August 9, 2012