One of the biggest lies ever taught is the phrase “never give up.” Why? There are many times throughout life when a person has no choice but to “give up.” If people continue to try to carry out things that are beyond their control, or ability it will do nothing but drive them crazy, and cause low-self esteem. If you have tried to do something for a long time, and it never goes your way, it may be a good idea to try something new.
The phrase should be “try,try and try again, then try something else.” The phrase “never give up” gives people a false impression that they may be able to accomplish things that are way beyond their grasp. Yes, it is a positive phrase, but it is not realistic.
For example: Person tries their entire life to become President of the United States, this is way beyond their grasp, in most cases.
Many times in my life I have pursued or tried to accomplish things, only to fail. These failures brought about the realization that the things I was going after were not in my grasp or within my natural abilities. It was like trying to climb Mount Everest, and falling back down, time after time. Finally, I woke up over the past week and realized I have fought a losing battle because I cannot control what others do, now or at any time. Yes, I have failed at many things, to keep trying, over and over, due to the “never give up” phrase, we Americans are taught our whole lives, beginning in grade school.
The realization that phrase is a complete lie, is a good thing for me. This is a positive realization, because now I know that I need to set realistic goals and expectations for myself. There is no sense in chasing after dreams or goals that are way out of my scope of abilities.
Regarding an emotional side to this, I realized that there is not a way to make a person love you in the same way you love them. The other person has to come to the realization themselves. It may take a very long time, and requires much patience on your part to wait for the person you love, to make a decision. Hopefully, their decision is to love you back. However, it may not be, and if this is the case, it is time to move on, and start over.
If we stay in the past, we will live there, without moving forward in our lives. The past does not predict the future, it does no good to keep reliving the past in our minds, over and over. It only makes for negative thoughts, and an inability to move towards positive goals.
There are times in life, that we have to give up. This is realistic, as things may not be within our grasp, due to economic circumstances, education, and physical abilities, etc. However, if you have to give up – try something new.
The phrase should not be “never give up.”
Rather, it should read “Try, if you fail, then do something new.”
If the phrase “never give up” is true, than should I climb this mountain?
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