Well readers, let’s just get on with this rant. Straight from my mind to the paper. Someone had the nerve to say the following words to me yesterday,
“You are embarrassing and no-one wants to be around you in public, because you are overly opinionated.” “You speak your mind too much, and it gets on everyone’s nerves.”
Well, my response to that is, guess I should go get the duct tape again for my mouth. Yes, I am loud and proud! I am a petite (short) woman, if I do not speak loud, everyone ignores me because being 5 feet 1″ tall, people tend to not see me in the crowd.
Opinions are like as*holes, everybody has one, and my opinions are just louder.
Reputations are sooo important in this stupid hillbilly town. Everyone knows everyone’s business.
I don’t give a crap about a reputation.
Reputations are the “world” to everyone in this stupid little town.
Suburbitches, if you haven’t read that post, (link at the bottom), apparently the suburbitches don’t like my loud mouth or opinions. Well, I guess just go get pregnant, go barefoot, cook some eggs, and keep my mouth shut!
Sorry Suburbitches (in this town) if I embarrass you. I know you all read these posts, and guess what? Can’t help it if I see something that is completely stupid, have to point it out. People do some seriously stupid stuff in this little town. Take it or leave, don’t care (to the suburbitches). Suburbitches, you really are on a zero, on the scale of stuff Liz cares about, seriously. I care about trees more than you, if you have seen my previous post on trees!
Liz and her loud mouth and opinions with this 5’1″ tall stature are going to keep-on keeping-on with my loud personality.
Can’t keep a loud-mouth opinionated woman down!
Read these again, Suburbitches….
Suburbitches post: http://awomeninherthirties.com/2012/07/21/suburbitches/
Rant about people saying, “I talk too much.” http://awomeninherthirties.com/2012/08/10/1935-or-2012-what-year-is-it/
Questions for thought to readers:
Is a person supposed to change their natural personality to have a great reputation? Well, reputations is like as*holes too, and everybody has one.
First, why do people care so much about their reputations? Do reputations make or break a person?
Does a reputation truly represent a person for who they are?
Why is everyone so worried about thier “reputations?” Is a person’s reputation who that person is on the inside?
Related articles
- Suburbitches (awomeninherthirties.com)
wildacademicwoman
/ August 28, 2012Sigh. Yes, reputations do matter. I can’t dress how I want at school. Everyone is so casual–jeans and shirts, running shoes. I feel out of place wearing my 5-inch Jennifer Lopez wedges. And I have you beat on the height–I’m 4 feet 11 and a half. So I guess I should be shouting louder than you.
LizEccentric7
/ August 28, 2012@Wildacademicwoman – guess I don’t judge a person on how they dress or what other people say. Have met many nice people that others have told me were “bad.” Just feel like a person should be able to be themselves without everyone else gossiping, seems like people tend to worry about other people more than their own problems, makes no sense to me. We shorties have to speak loud, actually have people run into me all the time because they are looking straight ahead and do not see me. You are 4’11″, well, think you should wear those Jenny Lopez wedges, and go about your self, who cares what others think? I don’t, maybe that’s my entire problem. Hmmm…Caring what others think, wouldn’t know how to go about starting to do that now, too old. Never have worried about the opinions of others, makes me less stressed. My dad taught me that, he never cared about what others think, and he is doing just fine.
wildacademicwoman
/ August 28, 2012That’s the thing. YOU may not judge, but others do. I can just tell that other people do. It’s also the nature of the environment. Here at the university, you have to conform somewhat, otherwise, especially at first, people may not take you seriously. It may not be ideal, but that’s how I’ve experienced life so far. This doesn’t mean that I conform my internal life to other people’s standards–just that I tweak my appearance or behavior in order to “play the game.” Kudos to you for not worrying about what others think of you. I think it’d be great fun to hang out with you (and I wouldn’t change a thing)!
LizEccentric7
/ August 28, 2012@wildacademicwoman – that is a great way to think about it, if I think about it as “playing their game” to get ahead in life, well guess that feels different to me. No – not being sarcastic. You are onto something here, if I “play the game” in the professional world, this would most likely help me alot. My non-conformity doesn’t sit well with employers or most everyone.
If I could at least put on the “game face” for 8 hours a day, when I find a job, that would be a huge help. Thank you, you give out great career advice.
Sometimes have to put on that game face to pay the bills. Should have learned that a long time ago.
Nonetheless, for the people in this town, don’t think I could do that, they act fake 24 hours a day, gets old.
Some people here try to be “high class.” However, they need to accept they are middle or upper-middle class and not the upper crust of society.
They seem to strive to pretend to have wealth, when I know their credit cards are maxed out, trying to get into the upper class of society (known these people for years).
wildacademicwoman
/ August 28, 2012We live in a very hierarchical society. Lots of people have more power than I do, so I need to know when to acquiesce to their wishes, expectations, etc. without losing sight of myself and who I am and who I want to be. The people who choose not to play the game are forced to quit–lots of people start PhD programs, but not everyone finishes.
On the other hand, I know what you’re talking about. Fake people annoy me, too. That’s why I got out of the ‘burbs!
LizEccentric7
/ August 28, 2012@wildacademicwoman – Well, we have been thinking about moving. You give some great professional advice. Ever thought about writing about career advice? You seem to have much expertise in the area of careers, women etc. Something I can see you would be great at writing just from your comments. A lot of women could use some career advice right now. Fake people, that put on an act all the time, think they may be very insecure.
Perhaps the approval of others is what they base their own self esteem on?
John
/ August 28, 2012Liz, these people sound incredibly shallow. You speak your mind and don’t beat around the proverbial bush, which is a character trait I admire in a woman. My wife knows this! I too live in a podunk. When we are able, we will hit the road and won’t look back. Your a five foot firecracker, Liz!
LizEccentric7
/ August 28, 2012Well, it’s just I do not have a filter. If the brain thinks it, the mouth says it.
Cannot understand why people just go along with the masses (boring), instead of making thier own decisions. What is wrong with being original or unusual? Why would I base my decisions on what others think? 
mystudentstruggles
/ August 28, 2012These people probably have some opinions and are just to scared and institutionalised to speak up – either that or they have no imagination or individuality. Trying to be optimistic I like to think it’s the first one, though this might not be realistic
Keep speaking up, the people who matter will like you because of your personality and won’t ask you to change it. If others are so closed-minded and will only like you if you pretend to be someone else then they aren’t worth it.
LizEccentric7
/ August 28, 2012@mustudenystruggles – great point – I do need to be more optimistic that’s for sure. Guess it is hard for me to feel that way being around the “fake.” They all dress the same, do the same things, wear the same purse.
You are right need to be more positive, need to think that all people are generally good. Used to think like that I don’t know what happened. Missed you over here on eccentric mystudentstruggles.
You make thought provoking comments.
mystudentstruggles
/ August 29, 2012I haven’t completely disappeared
I’m on holiday atm so not online a lot
LizEccentric7
/ August 29, 2012@mystudentstruggles – Well have fun!
bossymoksie
/ August 29, 2012I hate small towns! Everyone wants you to be a clone. You’re right, it’s boring. And I don’t care. I would rather have a reputation for being me, than anything else. People who ‘fake’ their reputation will eat it someday. Look at Tiger Woods. Everyone’s shit stinks.
But I also have problems keeping jobs. I like to think of it as jobs have a hard time keeping me though!
LizEccentric7
/ August 29, 2012@bossymoksie – seems like employers only want clones. I am going to have to learn to play the game in the professional arena that’s for sure. Liz needs some nice boots for the winter!
a beautiful mess
/ August 29, 2012I believe the best way to prove your eccentricity as well as your non-conformity is to immediately stop validating their meaningless opinions of you. Stop giving creedence to their superficial lifestyle, stop allowing their belittling words to enslave you, stop absorbing the mindless sh*t they say to you. Because in the very act of getting irritated by their gossiping and bullying behavior, your very irritation serves to encourage more of their behavior. By giving their words power over your emotions, you are communicating (without words) that they matter to you, that you long for their acceptance/approval. Not knowing you personally but having a pretty good grasp on your personality, I’m going out on a limb to say that the best course of action is no action at all.
If you encounter this type of moment again, smile and walk away. These b*tches will immediately wonder what this eccentric Liz chic is up to and who she thinks she is to dismiss what they have to say… I’ll tell you who she is. She is better than you, b*tches.
As a sidenote, I’ll offer this: people cluster together in groups with others and spend their lives forming judgements and creating strife because they are INSECURE. The very nature of insecurity seeks out differences in others and then strives to belittle or condemn the other person for those differences…
Aren’t these differences (being loud, opinionated, etc) the very thing that makes you love who you are? The best way to stifle the problem is to refuse to allow it to become your problem. You can’t change the meanness in others by being indignant; the only way to change anyone else to stop trying. Put your energies into loving your beautiful self with unabashed confidence. And you will attract that same energy back into your life.
Like the 90′s En Vogue song: free your mind, and the rest will follow.
LizEccentric7
/ August 29, 2012Wow! Electrifying words…have to read these tonight from the laptop and respond. My brain has to read this a few times. Reading from the phone just isn’t the same.
a beautiful mess
/ August 29, 2012Word up sister.
LizEccentric7
/ August 30, 2012@abeautifulmess – that is so true! I will have to read this comment each morning. Great advice, I cannot change others, have to remember those words.
northoffortyoncampus
/ August 30, 2012An opinion is one thing. Tact and diplomacy is another. I too have a hard time bitting my tongue, especially when people have no idea what they are talking about. The thing you have to consider is are these people really going to change their viewopint because I shared my opninion or are they just going to get that much more angry?
The really sneaky thing I do instead of just stating my opninion is lead them down a series of questions that proves my point. That generally makes them start backtracking over their own argument. At the end of the day it is probably not worth it. Only the educated will engage in debate and dialogue.
Choose your battles wisely.
LizEccentric7
/ August 30, 2012You know what? I respect a man that has balls, and that’s how I feel about it!
Opininated writing – I love because it has no “fluff.” That’s why I love BossyMoksie’s site on my blogroll.
That’s a woman with some balls too!
No need to explain yourself, your opinions are the reason I enjoy your blog. Oops – back to your comment. Yes, you are correct only smart people are usually opinionated and willing to debate.
Perhaps I shall try your technique above the next time one of them starts whispering and I can hear them at a basketball game, reminds me of high school!