To My Family and Friends

I am truly sorry to everyone in my personal life I have hurt.

I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.

All my love,

Liz

Timely Thoughts – Part II

“Hospitals are places that you have to stay in for a long time, even if you are a visitor. Time doesn’t seem to pass in the same way in hospitals as it does in other places. Time seems to almost not exist in the same way as it does in other places.”

—-Pedro Almodavor
(quote author above)

We go about our daily lives trying to ignore the fact the hour glass is running so fast towards the end.

There is really only one subject I have not written about on this website.

Death

Why do we avoid the subject? Surely, should be up for discussion, pretty important topic.

The word people fear and try to avoid thinking about, but it is coming as sure as taxes.

Time and death sort of go hand and hand don’t they?

Our lives are filled with daily chores, making lists, all the while ignoring the tick-tock, tick tock of our hearts clock.

Every heart has a timer of sorts, and it will stop one day, one minute, one second.

Will I have regrets? Can I make amends that I need to before then?

Will I have the time to complete any unfinished business?

I often forget to stop and think about the ticking of my own heart’s clock.

Do I have time to please people I dislike? No. Refuse.

Do I have time to try to make others happy, that will not be happy no matter what? No.

People I know constantly worry about their reputations.

Wonder if when they are lying in the hospital, going towards their last breath if they will think:

“Was my reputation good enough?”

“Did I please everyone?”

“Have I reached the education level and professional goals I wanted?”

No, they will not be thinking the above thoughts at all.

People who are near death only think of one thing – love

The last minutes of life are filled with visions of loved ones and people often speak to them, even if their loved ones have passed on (please keep in mind I have witnessed death in the healthcare field on several occasions).

The person only thinks of family and the people they long for, the deepest loves of their lives…..not bills, education, social status, or chores.

Many people never understand why I prioritize my life different from others, it is because when you witness death, you see what matters clearly.

We are only here for a short time, and then gone as a puff of smoke.

Love is all that matters in the end, and all people think about when the last bit of sand runs out of time in the hourglass.

The bloggers below wrote of time, and their thoughts prior to my own thoughts above.

If the bloggers had known this post was about death, their thoughts of the word “time” may have been different, as people generally do not like to discuss or even read the word “death.”

as the song goes “time is on my side, yes it is….”

Is time on my side? Is time really on anyone’s side?

Our brains avoid the word “death” or thinking of death automatically.

In order for time to be on our side, doesn’t this require the acceptance that death is a surety?

However, time and death are intertwined.

My research was to see how many bloggers put time and death together in their thinking process.

All of the thoughts below are from people around the world, just from reading a single, powerful word.

TIME

Words have much power, it amazes me the power of words.
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Previous Research Post:

Been doing much thinking of the word “time” lately, there is one song in particular that sums up my thoughts. I am not going to add my thoughts here yet, as this is a sort-of a research post, and my interjection may scue the results.

If you don’t mind my asking this question of you:

“What is the very first thought that pops into your mind when reading the word, time?”

The Thinking Man sculpture at Musée Rodin in Paris

The Thinking Man sculpture at Musée Rodin in Paris (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Note to WP Bloggers: Thank you for sharing your thoughts, they are most intriguing and thought provoking.

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Samantha – (click on title from phone)

To Samantha

This song by Norah Jones (click on link for video) is how I feel. I miss you so much.

Come Away With Me by Norah Jones

(click link for song)

http://www.youtube.com/embed/QKEuOO0lQPc?showinfo=0&rel=0

I love you and miss you terribly Samantha.

“I want to walk with you on a cloudy day” Samantha.

as Norah sings in the song.

 

Love

“We may not have it all together, but TOGETHER WE HAVE IT ALL.”

—unknown author

River of Denial

Finally, have come to the conclusion, that there are times in life when we will love someone dearly, but they will not love us back.

The ground feels unstable, hearing and senses are dulled, our mind trying to grasp the reality of the loss of a loved one or traumatic life changing event.

The world feels shaky and uncertain. The night brings dreams of the person and memories that are saddening but yet joyful at the same time.

Love that is not reciprocated is one of the hardest things to deal with in life, floating down the river of denial for much too long.

Honestly, I have been able to deal with losing someone by death better than losing the love of someone I love.

Making the journey to acceptance can seem daunting, but we have no choice but to head down the path to acceptance.

If you have never had to deal with the loss of someone, you will eventually, it is unavoidable.

Roller Coaster of wishing things could be the way they were, but the brain taking in only small pieces at a time of the reality of the traumatic life changing event. Seems the brain knows what we are able to handle.

If only we could turn back time.

Eccentric’s Simplicity Equation

Focus: Plans

People often ask me, “Why don’t you make plans and stick to the plans?”

Well, there are several reasons for this:

What is the point in making a plan? For example: “Would you like to have lunch on Saturday?” My response typically is “I don’t know, can I call you on Saturday?”

Why?

Feeling the pressure of said plan, when may get up that morning and just feel like taking the dog to the park, or just watching movies and vegging out all day, or it may even be an actual occasion where in the mood to clean all day.

If the mood to clean and work all day strikes me, which is not often because fun is always over cleaning, than I surely have to change the plan to clean and do housework.

Mood – What if I am not in the mood for said made plans on that day?

Cancellations – Think it is breaking a promise to break plans…so, why not just never make plans until the very last-minute…then, no promises broken.

You might be thinking, “this sounds like a negative outlook.”

No, it is not, because the” no making of plans”, means no promises broken or hurt feelings.

What if I really need sleep that day? I cannot predict the future.

The Equation: 

No making of plans until very last minute = no breaking of promises or hurt feelings

My aunt is the same way, and I sort of picked up this technique from her, smart woman.

She and I are much alike, in that if we get in the mood to clean, we have to clean that day or it simply will not get done.

So, in conclusion…

If you never wish to break a promise or cancel on another person, make plans at the last-minute and do not RSVP – ever.

To be honest, seems like each time ever made a plan, something always comes up…always. So, what is the point of a plan?

Can I predict the future? No. So, why make a plan?

Actually makes logical sense, if we think about the problem solving involved in the equation.

No plans = no pressure = happier = no breaking of promises or hurting relationships.

What’s the plan?

To have zero plans

How do you cancel plans politely?

No plans in the first place to cancel.

Simplicity

:)

Eccentric Update

Hello everyone,

Wanted to let everyone know about the reasons you may have noted the following:

Different writing style
Short blog posts (that are not my usual writing)
Lack of responding to comments
Not commenting or reading your new posts

The reasons for the above is as of late have noted I am having trouble with reading comprehension – which is very odd for me.

Unsure if do to stress (well from the “Unsolvable” Rubics Cube post” issues

Or

If this is a side affect from my new medication that is working well, but since started have noted marked decrease in reading comprehension.

Not a lie or excuse, my readers know me fairly well and sure some of you may be a bit worried about the writing style being different and super short.

I love reading and commenting on posts, so hopefully if there is a good day where the reading issue is ok, I can stop by and comment on your new posts.

So, if you get comments that are not thoughtful, it’s due to my reading comprehension as of late.

Know my blogging peeps worry so wanted to let everyone know.
:)

Liz

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